so what about dating?
Here comes the subject that most young people today don’t want others controlling or even influencing in their lives…
dating in high school…
I’m not here to push on you my beliefs, but I am here to set a standard, and to shake you up by placing the truth in front of you. Whether or not you want to meet the standard, and live a life of truth, is completely up to you.
Just like every other girl, growing up I couldn’t wait to have a boyfriend. To hold his hand, go on dates and to dances, etc. etc. My parents had established the “No dating until after you’re married” policy, but soon gave into my pleading and set the age to 17.
I was still a little bit upset because at the age of 12, 17 seemed ages away, but accepted the little grace my parents had given me.
Then one day I just felt God telling me to put a little more thought into dating and research about it in the Bible. So I did.
Well, I made up my mind. I was going to run after God with ALL of my heart. I was going to give him all of me and not split my heart between Love himself and a beloved. I would give God all of my heart and in return I knew I could trust Him to give me the love of my life.
I mean think about it. Don’t you think that the God who created the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1), sent His Son to die just for me (John 3:16), and created me, could set up an encounter with my future husband without me having to even flinch? God said himself, “For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you, and NOT to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
If you really want to set a standard, and make a difference in your high school, you have to be able to completely devote yourself to that (Mark 12:30). School already takes up a vast majority of your life, and if you go to church and are involved, that can be time consuming too, and then there’s work. How much more time do you have left for a relationship? And then try to put God into that schedule. You don’t. It’s incredibly hard to balance all of that, and the first thing that is eliminated usually happens to be your God-time.
You want God to use you on your campus? Give ALL you are to Him. It’s hard, I know. There is always someone that you could see yourself dating, but it comes to the point where we have to stop and ask ourselves, “Do I want to let God shape me, or let this relationship shape me?” I know that personally, I’m nowhere near where God wants me to be, and everything that happens around me, shapes me. The situations and atmosphere I place myself in will determine who I become, and I’m going to make sure that I’m walking in the path God’s laid out for me. I want His perfect will…nothing less.
“But seek first the Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33)
As God’s chosen generation, royal priesthood, and holy nation (1 Peter 2:9) we are called to set an example for others in speech, life, LOVE, faith, and in PURITY (1 Timothy 4:12). How are we supposed to set examples of striving for all of God if we’re caught up in silly high school relationships?
So yes, I’m not dating, and it gets harder and harder as you get older, because more and more people are doing it. Everyday I have to surrender my desires and wants to God, knowing that He’s going to meet every need and desire that’s in accordance with His plan, and that’s so much more than I could ever ask for.
“Love the Lord your God with ALL your heart, with ALL your mind, and with ALL your strength.” (Mark 12:30)
